Introducing my new book
The Merge For Marriage
Whether you’re newlyweds building a strong foundation or a long-term couple needing a refresh, this book offers a clear, actionable plan to create a thriving marriage.
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Your Marriage Can “Make The Merge”
Reignite Your Marriage and Rediscover Joy
Sometimes it can feel like there’s a force pulling you and your spouse apart. The stress of daily life, unresolved conflicts, inherent differences, and miscommunication create what I call The Merge—a force that threatens to overwhelm your relationship.
But you don’t have to let it. The Merge for Marriage provides practical, faith-based strategies to help you and your spouse come together as a team and defeat The Merge together. Whether you’re newlyweds building a strong foundation or a long-term couple needing a refresh, this book offers a clear, actionable plan to create a thriving marriage.
You’ll get:
- A Merge Map, where you’ll follow a structured roadmap to transform your relationship
- Date night activities that make learning fun and engaging
- Access to The Merge for Marriage Challenge, where I personally guide you through the content in more detail, ensuring that you apply each step to your relationship successfully.
how this book can help you
Meet The 5 Merge Tools – Your Roadmap to Defeat The Merge
1. Stop The Mergenado
The Mergenado is the destructive cycle that keeps you and your spouse spinning in the same unresolved arguments and behaviors, leaving you feeling exhausted and disconnected. You’ll learn how to recognize when you’re caught in the storm, identify the triggers that fuel it, and apply practical techniques to break free. With a new approach to the same problems, you’ll be able to stop reacting in the heat of the moment and start responding with intentionality, leading to real breakthroughs in your marriage.
2. Make Mountains Shrink
Life brings challenges—whether it’s financial strain, job stress, parenting struggles, or emotional wounds. In these moments, even small frustrations can feel like insurmountable mountains, creating distance between you and your spouse. This chapter will help you learn how to be a true source of strength for your partner, even when times are tough. With practical exercises and real-life examples, you’ll learn how to turn obstacles into opportunities for deeper connection and trust, ensuring that no challenge is too big for you to face together.
3. Merge at the Speed of Joy
Joy is the fuel that keeps a marriage thriving, yet it often gets lost in the chaos of daily responsibilities, stress, and routine. This chapter is all about rediscovering the fun, laughter, and deep connection that made you fall in love in the first place. You’ll learn how to be intentional about injecting joy into your marriage through meaningful experiences, shared adventures, and small but impactful daily habits. Whether your marriage feels stagnant or already strong, this tool will help you create a culture of joy that sustains your love for years to come. With guided activities and personal challenges, you and your spouse will rekindle excitement, strengthen emotional intimacy, and learn how to celebrate each other even in the mundane moments of life.
4. Spotlight Your Spouse’s Strengths
Every person brings unique strengths to a marriage, but too often, these differences become sources of frustration instead of appreciation. In this chapter, you’ll use my Lions, Otters, Golden Retrievers, and Beavers personality framework to truly understand and celebrate your spouse’s natural strengths. Instead of wishing they were more like you, you’ll learn how to embrace their unique qualities and work as a team. Through guided activities, you’ll discover how to encourage your spouse in ways that resonate with their personality type, eliminate unnecessary conflicts, and create a marriage where both of you feel valued and understood. Unlocking new levels of connection and teamwork in your relationship.
5. Learn to Unite the Knot & Repair
Every marriage will face wounds—whether from past mistakes, misunderstandings, or deep emotional pain. But true healing isn’t just about fixing what’s broken; it’s about forging something even stronger in its place. This chapter will guide you through the process of recognizing past hurts, understanding the deeper emotional needs beneath them, and learning how to rebuild trust in a way that lasts. Through powerful exercises, faith-based guidance, and real-life examples, you’ll not only repair old wounds but also create a marriage that is more resilient, connected, and deeply united. With the right tools, you and your spouse can turn past pain into a foundation for an even greater future together.
with tools like these
Your marriage can make the merge
Reignite passion and intimacy with date night activities for each chapter, designed to deepen emotional connection and strengthen your bond through fun and meaningful experiences.
Overcome challenges together with faith and understanding, using guided conversations and exercises that help you grow closer rather than drift apart.
Gain exclusive access to The Merge for Marriage Challenge, where I personally walk you through the content, provide additional insights, and give you real-life strategies to implement in your marriage.
Build a personalized Merge Map to track your progress, set goals, and celebrate growth in your relationship.
Get coaching, or help and support directly from me with discounted resources and services.
“Transparent, vulnerable, rich with wisdom and full of heartfelt insight…”
Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg,
Marriage coaches, authors of The 5 Love Needs of Men and Women, and grandparents of 12!
“You’ll love this book…”
–Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott, #1 New York Times bestselling authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
“Full of hope & humor. You’ll address disagreements, embrace differences, and thrive as a team…”
Greg Smalley, Vice President of Marriage and Family at Focus on The Family
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